An Open Letter to Person Sad Because of a Loss, Like Me.

By: Summer Rudd

Dear Person who is sad because of a loss,   

Welcome to my life. You are most definitely not alone. With Christmas right around the corner, all I can think about is how alone I feel. I can only think of how my mom will never share another Christmas with me, how my dad is dating again, or how the person I love doesn’t feel the same, and I can’t even talk to my mom about it. (Literally the worst.)  

If you’ve ever gone through something similar, chances are you must be tired of people telling you there is someone better for you out there or that you just have to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and move on. The people who say these things mean well; after all it’s hard seeing your friend, significant other, or family member sad, knowing you can’t fix it.   

But I’m here to tell you something different. I say that advice sucks. I say let yourself be alone, be sad, be an individual, be you. I found out that it’s okay to be sad.  Just sit there a second and cry because the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Let yourself feel the pain, because at least you know that you’re alive. What you feel right now is real, while the opposite of love is indifference. You know that what you felt was real that person, because this feeling is even more real.   

Remember that your body cannot internalize this sadness, because that’s when bad things happen and sadness sticks around. I did that for a while after my mom died, and it only hurt me in the long run. However, if you’re sad all the time, you should probably go see someone, or talk to your friends, or at least make sure you are not alone.    Guess what, Person? You will never be alone.  

There is someone in this world that loves you.  You are important. You will get through this season. Whether it’s a death, break up, finals-whatever is making you sad shall pass. You have your teachers, your family, your friends, your co-workers, your pizza delivery guy or girl; you have someone. I'm sure that you’ve already heard this, but it’s true. Just make sure you don’t shut these people out by yelling at them. Just tell them you’re sad and tell them what you want them to do, because it can be confusing when trying to help a sad person.  

Be truthful and honest. Say nicely that you do not want to talk if you don’t want to talk. When we’re sad, we tend to overlook the people who are there for you.  If you are like me, you are so absorbed in one person, you fail to see the many persons you have already, people who are there for you already, while all you have to do is ask.   


Being sad is about you. Now, anyone can tell you how to stop being sad, but it’s really up to you.  We all deal with tragedy differently, and that’s okay, because that means we are not all the same boring people!  I believe in you, if that counts for anything.  We can be sad together.  

Trust me, dear! 

It gets better, and you will be better because of it.  The sad moments in life make you super grateful for the happy ones. Be sad, but also be happy for who you are.  Also be friends with your pizza delivery guy because sometimes they give you cookies, or don’t take cookies from strangers.  It depends on how you were raised…   



Summer Rudd is a Sophomore Psychology Major at Christian Brothers University and a staff writer at the Galleon.

Posted by Josh Colfer at 3:17 PM

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